There is no right or wrong…or is there?

Feb 13, 2015 // No Comments » // Conversational Circles


“He has the thoughts and insights for the businesses…and a heart for our people.”

This was my response many years ago when my then boss was shortlisted as a finalist by a reputable HR publication for Best HR Director of the year.

It sounds paradoxical. How often we tend to associate a behavioral trait as being one-dimensional as if people can be simply boxed-in on a certain behaviour and they are not capable to complement such with another.

paradox |ˈparədɒks| noun a seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true.

Comments as such abound…

“She is so direct and blunt…incapable of being tactful.”

“He is so stubborn and always has a mind of his own…if only he is more open to trying new ways of doing things.”

“My boss expects me to be more flexible and adapt to changes…but my strength is being organised and making sure things are in order.”

We often use comparative terms such as  ’positive’ or ‘negative’, ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and sometime even ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ to evaluate tendencies and behaviours. But human behaviour are extremely multi-dimensional, complex and contextual. I prefer to use ‘dynamic’ and ‘gentle’ to describe our behavioural traits. In Chinese philosophy, yin and yang, which are often shortened to “yin-yang” or “yin yang”, describes how apparently opposite or contrary forces are actually complementary, interconnected, and interdependent; and how they give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.

One of the many tools I have used in my years of coaching, leading and facilitation, Harrison Assessments is a highly reliable preference assessment tool that provides comprehensive data and information on job suitability and eligibility, paradox graph,  leadership development and many more traits and definitions in the report.

Do drop me a line to find out more about Harrison Assessments.


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